There are countless ways to discipline your kids and teach them responsibility. And, my skill.has tried a myriad of ideas. I came up with a plan to use with my kids, based on something I recalled my uncle doing more than twenty years ago called the coin discipline method. And, the crazy thing is that it works!
I’ve been at this parenting thing for nearly 11 years now. And you know what? I am still trying to figure it out! We’ve tried many things with our kids to help them pick up toys, not fight and just listen to us. We tried the ticket reward system (which worked while they were a bit younger). We even used toy jail for them. We were successful in implementing these tactics, but as our children are getting older, it means that my husband and I have to stay ahead of the curve.
With summer vacation starting here very soon, it means three kids will be home. They will fight. They will leave messes. They will not listen to me. After all, they are kids – right? Well, yes they are kids, but we are doing something new with them this summer to try to keep the fighting, bickering, sassing, messes, etc. from taking over. We are instilling the coin method of discipline method.
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THE COIN DISCIPLINE METHOD
The idea is similar to what we’ve used with our kids when traveling on vacation. Before we leave in our van, we hand them a roll of quarters (which gives them $10 to spend on anything they want). Every time they fight, ask if it is much longer, etc., they owe us a quarter. When they see that roll getting smaller and know they have less to spend, they really think long and hard before they ask the question or fight. It made for a pleasant trip (and was SO worth the $30 we spent for our sanity).
Since there are 12 weeks of summer, $10 a week would get pretty expensive. That is why we use dimes instead. Each time that they have to be reminded to pick up the cheese stick wrapper, or put their away or to stop fighting, they will owe me a dime.
At the end of each week, I will take them to the Dollar Store (their favorite place to shop), and they can spend what is left over. They remember the fun they had with the quarters from vacation, so this is motivation, in the same manner, to behave during the summer.
The entire idea is to make them THINK before they act. It helps them remember that need to be kind to their siblings and to pick up their toys. It also teaches them accountability for their actions. They know that if they do the wrong thing they will lose money. The same way in knowledge.– if you do the wrong thing you may have consequences for your actions.
It is NOT about the money. It’s about giving it thought before you do something.
IS THIS BRIBERY?
Some of you may feel that this is “bribing” your kids. I do not. I look at it this way — do you WORK for free? No, you are not being bribed to show up and do what you are asked — but isn’t your paycheck your motivation in doing so? The same concept can be used for our kids.
Sure, they know that they are supposed to do the right thing, but if we can sometimes dangle that motivator (call it a carrot if you will) in front of them, we can often get better behavior out of them.
The coins will certainly NOT replace their responsibility charts. If anything, the chores we choose may take them longer, as they have more time to give back since they no longer have homework and other responsibilities. My kids know what we expect, but after spending so much time around one another, they tend to get a little out of sorts. Using this method is mom’s way of helping them think before they speak.
My kids are really good kids (I am a lucky woman), but again, after too much time together, they tend to fight more (as siblings do) and this just might help mom keep her sanity this summer. I figure that giving them dimes is better than me losing my temper with them. It is a complete win-win situation.